UPDATED: 6:00 a.m. EDT, June 20, 2021 —
On this Father’s Day, especially one that falls right smack dab in the middle of a global racial reckoning that began in the U.S., it remains important to point out and debunk the unfortunate theories that incorrectly generalize and stereotype Black fathers as deadbeat dads who prioritize anything but their children.
The fact of the matter is — and has been for quite some time — statistics show that Black men with children are victims of a myth that paints them as the most irresponsible and chronically absentee fathers not just in the United States but also around the world. The truth is that African American men are the most involved fathers, period.
The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, a federal government agency, published a study saying exactly that: Black men, compared to white and Hispanic fathers, were the most involved in their children’s daily lives, including everything from talking to their kids to helping them with homework to bathing them, and much more.
Most Black fathers live with their sons and daughters, the book “All In” by Josh Levs noted. About 2.5 million Black fathers live with their children, while approximately 1.7 million of them don’t live under the same roof with their kids. Many of these fathers don’t marry the mother of their children, but that doesn’t make them absentee fathers, as New York Time’s Charles Blow underscored.
In preparing their children for adulthood, African American fathers are having serious conversations with their kids about how to navigate the pitfalls of being Black in America. Some of those conversations were recently shared with Oprah Winfrey from actor Sterling Brown during a Father’s Day special hosted by the media maven on her cable network, OWN.
In conversations with their sons, many Black fathers are instructing them on how to manage encounters with law enforcement officers. They often emphasize to their sons at an early age that cops will view them as suspicious and dangerous for no other reason than the color of their skin. It’s a hard thing to tell one’s child, but their survival could depend on realizing that truth.
“I know that I have a special boy. But my reality as a father is, one day, this 10-year-old could not come home—at the hands of foolishness or hatred or misunderstanding,” Dame Drummer, a 40-year-old Oakland father said.
21 Positive Images Of Black Dads That Shatter False Stereotypes On Father's Day
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#ChangeTheNarrative !!! LOVE IT BRUH!!!💪🏾❤️💯 #TeamDL #blackfathers #blackfathersmatter #love #family #fatherdaughter #Repost @niecynash1 with @get_repost— DL Hughley (@RealDLHughley) March 29, 2019
Help someone be great today! 🙌🏽 #rp @theblackmancan pic.twitter.com/t2pKhQ8u6p
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Black Fathers will change the mindset of our next generation by simply being present ✊🏾— Faithful Black Men Association (@OfficialFBMA) January 22, 2019
And we will continue to push THIS narrative no matter how much we are attacked.. #ChangeTheNarrative pic.twitter.com/0o2IC7NIyn
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Always Dope to see a Dad Doing His Daughters Hair 💕#STRONGBLACKFATHERS— Strong Black Fathers (@SBFathers) June 10, 2019
.#Blackfathersmatter #Blackfathers #BlackDads #Blackmen #Blacklove #Blackexcellence #Dads #DontforgetDads #Daddyduties #Prouddad #Dadlife #DadGoals #Daddysgirl #Daddyslittlegirl #dadsanddaughters pic.twitter.com/nUNRFhk6df
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BLACK FATHERS MATTER ✊🏿— hennywithmyKoke 🏁 (@FlynnAlKapone) June 6, 2019
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Black fathers matter ❤️❤️ @BlackOwnedUS pic.twitter.com/iOKqcjd2Rw— TV One (@tvonetv) May 6, 2019
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@RodriquezKhaliq I thought you'd appreciate this. "Fathers walk their kids to school program! (Cleveland,Oh) My nephews are a part of this program walking their Kids to school. There are positive Black Men visible in the Black community & homes. pic.twitter.com/Bf1SuQCVcU— TreVel 🎙🎼 (Music Is Life) (@Randydapsalmist) September 22, 2018
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#Repost @blackvegantube— HABESHA, Inc. (@HABESHAINC) June 6, 2019
This made me smile. #blackfathers have always existed!!! The narrative is changing.🙏🏿 Ase’
Via @vintage_vegan_ pic.twitter.com/O5o09BF3gR
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Just wanted to salute @Oreo for getting the narrative right and showing the love between black fathers and their sons. It’s so important and needed in the world! Shout out to @wizkhalifa and his son Sebastian. 🖤 pic.twitter.com/yZY2QfyV9M— LOVE (@Diddy) February 12, 2019
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Promoting our young Black fathers one post at a time! ✊🏽✊🏾✊🏿 pic.twitter.com/VjSoRpELrC— EBONY MAGAZINE (@EBONYMag) August 3, 2018
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#BlackFathers— Ace (@Ace_2984) March 22, 2018
Shout out to all father's who taking care of their kids. Salute!
Because most of us wasn't raised with no father in the house, doesnt mean we cant be great dads and love our kids!!
This is my son and myself having fun during the snow storm! pic.twitter.com/TMoudfT2eY
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Don’t Believe The Myth That Black Fathers Are Not There For Their Children was originally published on newsone.com